Planning a wedding comes with endless questions — some big, some small, and some you might feel too awkward to even ask. From who pays for what, to when you should send invites, to whether you really need to tip every vendor, here are answers to the most common wedding planning FAQs.
FAQ 1: Who Traditionally Pays for the Wedding?
- Traditionally, the bride’s family covered most costs, but that’s outdated.
- Today, it’s common for both families (and sometimes the couple themselves) to share expenses.
- Bottom line: do what feels fair and comfortable for your situation.
FAQ 2: When Should We Send Save-the-Dates and Invitations?
- Save-the-dates: 6–8 months before the wedding (longer for destination weddings).
- Invitations: About 8–10 weeks before.
- Tip: Include RSVP deadlines at least 3–4 weeks before your big day.
FAQ 3: Do We Have to Invite Plus-Ones for Everyone?
- No, it’s not required.
- Generally, offer plus-ones for married, engaged, or long-term partnered guests.
- For others, it’s your call (especially if you’re budget-conscious).
FAQ 4: How Do We Handle Kids at the Wedding?
- Options: Invite all kids, have an “adults-only” policy, or provide childcare at/near the venue.
- Be clear on your invitations so guests can plan accordingly.
FAQ 5: Do We Really Need to Tip Our Vendors?
- While not always required, tips are a thoughtful way to thank vendors for going above and beyond.
- Common etiquette:
- Caterers/Servers: 15–20% (if not already in bill)
- Hairstylist/Makeup: 15–25%
- Photographer/Videographer: $50–$200 each
- DJ/Band: $50–$150 per person
- Planner/Coordinator: Optional, but $100–$500 is a nice gesture
- Always check contracts first — some gratuities may already be included.
FAQ 6: How Do We Avoid Family Drama Over the Guest List?
- Decide early who’s non-negotiable.
- Communicate your guest list rules clearly (like no children or no distant cousins).
- Remember: it’s your day, not theirs.
FAQ 7: What’s the Best Way to Stay on Budget?
Track everything in a spreadsheet — little expenses add up fast.
Prioritize what matters most (food, music, photography).
Cut costs on things people won’t remember (favors, fancy linens).